The Trap of Quick Fixes
A while ago, a friend told me she was unhappy at work. She disliked certain tasks and felt a resistance to going to work in the morning. When I asked how everything was at home, it turned out that they were currently having tough financial times.
On another note, this past week I've been thinking about minimizing or eliminating my presence on social media. Iβve felt that itβs been taking up too much time and energy. On top of that, work has been pretty stressful lately.
My friend still has her job and is loving it right now. I still have my social media accounts and have no plans to change anything at the moment.
Two different life situations, the same pattern: we feel that something is rubbing us the wrong way and are quick to point out the villain in the drama. And it's easiest to blame something that is close and recurring.
But we risk sentencing something completely innocent when we're too quick with our conclusions. We're so eager to lock up the bad guy and throw away the key that we overlook the evidence. It's a strong internal feeling of stress and turmoil that triggers the decision, unlike the genuine gut feeling, which vibrates with a gentle and sensible energy.
If we have a little patience before taking acting, it often turns out that the initial hasty judgment was false. Maybe something still needs to change, but not what we first thought. Or maybe nothing actually needs to change β all that was needed was to give it a little time.